Deborah

Knowing how to stop blushing is a holy grail for shy people who would prefer to keep their cool socially. Charles Darwin believed people who blushed aren t to be trusted and that young children don t blush because they aren t developed enough to understand social rules. Any normal human being who blushes will disagree passionately. Let s move on from Darwin s late 19th century ramblings and find out why blushing happens, and more importantly, how to stop blushing. If you blush for no reason, feel social anxiety, avoid talking to new people or in groups or have plain old embarrassment, it s likely you ve got an overly active sympathetic nervous system. Blushing is an unconscious reaction to an emotional trigger, causing your blood vessels to open wider and flood your face, neck and ears. The secret to stopping blushing is to make use of your para-sympathetic nervous system...

I ve been there. You have long to-do list waiting, but instead, you find yourself oversleeping, watching TV or wasting time in other unproductive activities. It obviously comes from a combination of low energy, and a lack of motivation and self-discipline. Try to figure out what causes it. If you have too much on your mind and find it hard to even start thinking about all the things you have to do, it s time write it down. Write everything that comes to your mind, things to do, things to think about, things that bother you. You d probably realize soon enough, that things aren t as bad as you thought. You may need to change the way you do your self talk . Do you talk to yourself like a parent talks to a child. You re a grownup now. It s time to change the way you think about tasks and responsibilities. Instead of thinking YOU have to do this , think- I want to do this...

Have you ever experienced moments when everything seemed to just flow. Moments when you didn t have to struggle or fight or force things to happen. It s as if there were a giant hand holding a magic wand a few paces ahead of you at every step, magically shifting circumstances so that everything goes your way. As a writer, I m keenly aware of the flow. It usually means the difference between my words spilling smoothly and effortlessly onto the page, or each word being wrung stiltedly and painfully from my resistant mind. The flow seems to happen spontaneously most of the time. We might be working, running errands, doing chores around the house, or even just kicking back and watching television. Whatever we re doing, we realize that we feel good. We re not struggling with errant emotions or frustrated desires. We simply feel in tune with the rhythm of life. Not only do we...